Sunday, January 27, 2008

Wife Rule #1: She is my Number One

I spent several days thinking about which of my Wife Rules should be listed as the Number One rule. I won't usually ponder it so deeply, but the symbolism of the Number One slot was too much to just brush off. And it came to me tonight. Wife Rule Number One is that my wife is my Number One. She is the most important person on this earth to me. The scriptures give direct commandments to "cleave unto" two people--God, and my wife. That tells me that she should always be at the top of my priority list.

In our short nine-and-a-half years of marriage, I have learned the truth that our marriage works best when I put my wife above myself, and when she puts me above her. It's a paradoxical truth that the best way for each of us to ensure our own happiness is to work tirelessly towards the happiness of the other.

All that work could be a real burden, but this is where love comes in. I love my wife with all my heart. I'll admit that it's not often in my nature to serve her above myself, but when I take the time to think about how much I love her, putting her first comes naturally. She should be preeminent in my life--above our kids, above our parents, neighbors, friends, and yes, above myself. It's the way God designed it to be.

"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church, and gave himself for it." (Ephesians 5:25)


Brooke said...

My dear husband is my number 1 too. You can see why that is so easy to remember. He loves me in so many ways, spoils me each day and makes everything rosy. What a blessed wife I am!

LuckyMatt said...

If you are blessed, than I have a double-decker blessing with extra cheese on top, for having a wife like you!